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Meet Ayesha Curry.  Chances are, you already know her.

Tonight is Game 7 of the NBA Finals and very few are actually talking about the game itself.  Just about everyone has spent the last few days discussing what Ayesha Curry tweeted about Game 6.

Mrs. Curry essentially insinuated that the NBA is”fixed” to allow Cleveland to extend the series to a Game 7.  A 7th game brings about more money through TV ratings and ticket sells.

As much as I love the Curry family and how they represent themselves, I think that she crossed over the line with her tweet.  Way over the line.

However, let me backtrack a bit.  Since the creation of the “Basketball Wives” TV show, it appears to me that a lot of women have come to the forefront of the game.  My only problem is with the ones who are bringing that reality show element along with them.  Sports fans honestly don’t care what you think, good or bad.  We want to see Skip Bayless, Jemele Hill, Stephen A. Smith, and the likes discuss the game.  Not the wives of players.


Because wives of players are always going to side with their husbands.  Duh.  Where’s the journalistic integrity of that (not to say that all talking heads on ESPN have integrity).  Brent Grimes of the NFL has a wife who is so outspoken that he has difficulty even signing with a team.  Imagine that!  Not being able to get a job because of your wife’s actions on social media (and in real life for Miko Grimes).

Here’s the tweet heard around the world (that she deleted afterwards).

And I want all the people who are supporting Ayesha to think about that.  If your husband comes home and discloses to you that someone at his job is holding him back, is your first thought to go on social media and bash his company?  Absolutely not.  Because you know that he will be out of a job if you do.

So, why do you give Ayesha Curry a pass on doing the exact same thing?  Because Steph is too talented to get fired from the Warriors?  Well, that’s true, but that doesn’t make it right.  Because believe it or not, Steph has been totally impacted in a negative way by his wife’s antics.  He will never say that publicly because it’s his wife.  Duh again.  But she’s done more harm than good.

How so?

It’s Game 7 and what who are we talking about?  Ayesha Curry.

Who are the reporters asking Steph Curry about in the interviews leading up to the game?  Not Lebron, but Ayesha.

What questions are Steph’s teammates getting asked about in interviews leading up to the game?  Not about the Cavaliers, but about if they think the games are rigged.

And if the tweet was not enough, she challenged an ESPN talking head legend in Stephen A. Smith into a war of words.  He called her out on being a distraction to the team and her response was to challenge what he said and be even more of a distraction.  She even said that Stephen A. was pitting women against women simply because he stated that Lebron’s wife, Savannah, experiences much more scrutiny of her husband than anyone in the league, yet she lets him handle it.  Imagine that.  A woman letting a man fight his own battles.  I would personally be offended if I had a wife who attempted to fight my battles for me.  That’s emasculating.  It’s just not right and it’s humiliating.

Steph Curry is going into what could be the biggest game of his career and no one is really talking about the game.  And even if Ayesha Curry is correct in her accusations, how is she going to prove it?  What if she pissed the referees off so much (they’re human) that they decide that they’re not going to call many fouls tonight?  They may decide just to let the guys play it out and stay out of the picture.  A physical game favors Cleveland and not Golden State, so that would hurt her husband’s chances of winning.  How is her tweet going to help her husband tonight?

Newsflash: It won’t.

I’m not a fan of either team, but I do hope that tonight’s game is a close one and has plenty of action.  I am a fan of both Savannah and Ayesha.  I’m a fan of Savannah’s for being able to stay away from the spotlight, as tempting as it may be.  And I’m a fan of Ayesha’s for how she’s handled the spotlight, up until now.

It’s not that Ayesha isn’t entitled to her opinions.  She just has to realize that once she becomes the story, she becomes a target for criticism.  It doesn’t matter if it’s justified or not.  That’s just how the media works.  And any criticism of her affects her husband’s game whether anyone believes it or not.  It also puts him in a bad place with his teammates who also are affected by the controversy.

The last thing a player wants to worry about in a locker room is his wife/girlfriend or family.  You have to worry about how the media will make her look.  You have to worry about if some deranged fan(s) will accost her and hold her responsible if Golden State loses.  We live in a world where those two things are very likely.

Ayesha will probably have her own cooking show or something in the future.  She’s a likeable person and she has the ability to brighten up any room.  She’s one of the more positive recognizable figures in social media today and we need more like her.

But tweets can’t beat microphones.  In a game between Ayesha Curry vs. ESPN, I’m putting my money down on ESPN every time.  I hope that she now realizes that she’s fighting a losing battle and that she takes the high road going forward.


I’ve been back in the dating world for about five months now and there have been two things that’s been made abundantly clear to me: one of them is that the world is filled with liars.

Not so much the type of liar who tries to scheme something out of you.  But the type of liar who will tell you what you want to hear knowing that they have no intention of following up.  I hate it when someone says that they’re going to do something knowing that they’re not going to make an attempt at all.  I am a man of my word and I absolutely do not say I’m going to do something without doing it (barring some emergency).  Lord knows that I’ve dealt with my share of people who don’t subscribe to the same theory though.

The second thing that I’ve learned is that: women lie just as much as men.  And they’re not as good at it as they may have once been historically.  Lying is definitely no longer a “man thing” in 2015.  From the lies told on Facebook to the lies told in reality, so many women appear to be in some invisible competition that requires them to act more than what they are.  Sometimes I look at some of the things that my lady FB friends post and think to myself, “Doesn’t she know that some of her friends know her in real life?”

But the pressure of 5,000 “friends” will drive some people to do so many things just to maintain their online reputation.  Even if it soils their real life reputation.

I guess all I can do is try to sort out the good from the bad.  I understand that not everyone is honest and that some lies aren’t meant to be harmful (telling someone with a messed up hairstyle that it “looks good” to avoid hurting their feelings).

Lying may be a necessary evil in some situations.  But to what I would guess is a majority of American citizens, it’s not that big of a deal to lie to someone you know or don’t know just to get some sort of temporary (and mostly meaningless) victory from it.





That is an example of the nervous twitch my eye had when I came across this phenomenon.  Taking selfies after having sex and then sharing it with the world.  In a country where people complain about having surveillance cameras on street corners for protection is a violation of privacy, we have people sharing the after-shocks of their sex faces.

(Deep breath)

I guess that I shouldn’t be surprised by this.  Social media has created an illusion that everyday people are Hollywood stars.  It’s created an attitude that a person has fans who care what they’re doing every single minute of the day.  Because of that, nothing is sacred any more.

Now, I realize that I’m 42 years old and I’m not too far away from telling kids to “get off of my lawn!”  However, that doesn’t mean that I never did anything stupid when I was young.  I know that kids will be kids and do things that 40-somethings and above will not understand.  But, the difference I see in my generation and younger generations is that we did appear to have more pride in ourselves.  Some things will still sacred to us.  To them it’s just trying to get attention and responses from their “fans.”

Because of that, I refuse to search for #ToiletTweet for fear of what I will find.

How did we wind up parenting a generation where nothing appears to be sacred?

Dude, keep your private life to yourself.

Mitchell 10 years ago; Rodgers present day

It’s a shame that on MLK Day, I’m blogging about something race-related.  As far as we’ve come in this country in regards to black and white, there are things that remind us that there’s still a long way to go.

Sports has been called the “great equalizer” when it comes to uniting the races.  The “Remember the Titans” movie is a perfect example of that.  Still there are some inconsistencies in the media that make me shake my head.

Time and time again I see the media portray people differently based on race and culture.  Last night, Seattle Seahawks defensive back, Richard Sherman, went off on San Francisco 49ers wide receiver, Michael Crabtree and social media went wild.

People called him a “thug” (which is a popular word used when describing aggressive black people), classless, an embarrassment and other unflattering words.  What they saw on TV was a black man who should “just be happy to make millions playing in the NFL.”  He should be humble, appreciative, keep his mouth shut and just play the game.

It takes me back in time to my youth when I first started noticing inconsistencies in the media based on race.  I remember when Deion Sanders played hurt in a football game once.  He was clearly hampered by the injury, but chose to play and try to help his team.  He didn’t play well and I remember one of the commentators saying that he was being “selfish” for playing at less than 100%.  That same day, the Jets played and one of their players named Wayne Chrebet was also playing hurt.  He went on to have a poor game, but the commentator said that he was a “warrior” for trying to gut out a win for his team.

Scoring touchdowns is something that is viewed differently at times.  The term “act like you’ve been there before” comes up often when black certain players celebrate after scoring touchdowns.  Yet when Aaron Rodgers of the Packers scores a touchdown, he gets applauded for that “championship belt” gesture he does.  In fact, instead of being chastised, he even has commercials for what is now called the “Discount Double-Check” move.  What’s even worse is that he didn’t even invent that scoring celebration.  Former Philadelphia Eagle, Freddie Mitchell, was doing the “championship belt” move back in 2003 when Rodgers was still in college.

Do you see the inconsistencies that drive guys like me nuts?

Last one: back in 2007, a player named Anthony Smith from the Pittsburgh Steelers guaranteed a victory over the Patriots in an upcoming game.  Tom Brady torched Smith and the Steelers defense en route to victory.  On one of the TD passes Brady threw, he ran up to Smith and got facemask-to-facemask and taunted him.  The stories that made the headlines the next day talked about Tom Brady’s “passion” and how he was “teaching Smith a lesson” and being a “fiery competitor.”

Where are those words when it comes to describing Richard Sherman?  Crabtree and Sherman were jawing at each other the entire game, so why doesn’t he get to have the last word like Brady did?  Why is he a “thug” instead of a “fiery competitor?”

Lou Pinella kicked dirt on umpires and cursed them out.
Brian Wilson beat a Gatorade cooler with a baseball bat.
Bobby Knight threw a chair on the court of a basketball game.
John McEnroe yelled at judges on the tennis courts.
Larry Bird was a legendary trash talker.

John Tortorella, Mike Ditka, etc.  The list goes on and this still occurs to this day.  There are some white people in sports that have berated, cursed, intimidated or (technically) assaulted others and yet they are still “feisty heroes” to many media types. Not even once have I ever heard any of them referred to as “thugs.”  Never.

Richard Sherman finished 2nd in his high school class in GPA and went on to graduate from Stanford in Communications.  He even went back for his graduate degree.  He’s never been arrested and doesn’t play dirty in the field of play.  He’s not a “thug.”  He’s the best cornerback in the league (statistics will back that up) and he had the last word against a mouthy competitor.  At least I thought that he had the last word…

Crabtree obviously didn’t learn his lesson because he’s still disrespecting Sherman.
Does the media (including social media) treat black athletes different than white athletes?

West Coast fans have it bad thanks to social media.

(steps on soapbox)

I’m sick of it to the point that I have to blog about it..

Stop it… Just stop it…

Stop thinking that what you have to say is somehow more important than anyone else. 

Stop thinking that putting something on Facebook or Twitter somehow turns you into Anderson Cooper or Rachel Maddow. 

Wait. You may be confused. Let me explain:

First of all, when I say “overshare,” I’m not talking about the people who put too much information on their timelines. TMI is a problem in social networking, but it can usually be ignored easily. Besides, seeing an older co-worker discuss increasing the fiber in his diet doesn’t really impact me.

The people that I can’t stand are the spoilers. The people who watch sporting events, movies, and/or TV shows and choose to disclose every single plot point or game score on their timeline. Those are the people that I wish I could ship off to a remote island with no cell phone signal or Wi-Fi.

The reason that I hate them is because they force me to live in a bubble because they can’t keep their mouths closed! They’re so selfish and arrogant that they feel as if they have a right to reveal information to you and ruin your experience! They’re too self-centered to ponder if you may want to watch the show and enjoy the revelation of each storyline just as they did. No, you don’t get to have that luxury because they typed out the entire show on their timeline!

(takes a deep breath)

The perfect example of this is the ABC hit show, “Scandal.”  If you don’t watch that show as it airs, then you may as well turn off every electronic in your home until you do.  Everywhere you look, someone will post important information about the show that will ruin your viewing experience.  “Fitz got shot!”  “Mellie got raped!”

Dag, at least give me a week.  SMH.  People on the West Coast must really hate the time difference because they literally have to disconnect from social media for two hours prior to any relevant show.  If not, they will have someone spoil the show appear on their timeline.

Another example is sports.  There were two college bowl games that I wanted to see this week.  One on Monday and one on Tuesday.  Both came on in the mid-afternoon prior to me getting off of work.  To be able to go home and enjoy the recording of the game, I had to eliminate Facebook and Twitter from my afternoon.  Despite the fact that I don’t follow ESPN or any TV sports personalities on social media, I still have to disconnect because everyone else on my timeline doesn’t care if I want to enjoy the game or not.

I failed to make it home both days without knowing the scores to the game.  Despite the fact that I disconnected from social media, an associate felt the need to “share” the score with me and ruin my evening.  Although I chose to avoid Facebook and Twitter, she didn’t.  And with all of that technology at her finger tips, she couldn’t wait to reveal the score of the game as if I had some sort of appreciation for it.  As if I had no way of ever being able to watch the game once I got home.  Like DVR’s haven’t been invented.

I came home both evenings and deleted the recordings of the games without watching them.  Why would I watch?  I already knew the final score.  What’s the point?  The opportunity to watch the game unfold was taken from me by some selfish individual.

Look, I get that watching TV with a bunch of followers/friends is exciting.  I chat during shows, too, but I never reveal anything in my tweets because I don’t want to ruin it for anyone.  Social media has options for people to create private groups in which to discuss things.  Why not create a private group so people who are watching the show live can chat it up with you?  Wouldn’t that be better than spoiling it for people who have to work or maybe live on the West Coast?

Then again, if you do that, then that would mean that you actually have to put forth an effort to consider other people’s feelings, huh?  Please just choke yourself to sleep.  Wake up.  Repeat. 

(steps off soapbox)