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Meet Ayesha Curry.  Chances are, you already know her.

Tonight is Game 7 of the NBA Finals and very few are actually talking about the game itself.  Just about everyone has spent the last few days discussing what Ayesha Curry tweeted about Game 6.

Mrs. Curry essentially insinuated that the NBA is”fixed” to allow Cleveland to extend the series to a Game 7.  A 7th game brings about more money through TV ratings and ticket sells.

As much as I love the Curry family and how they represent themselves, I think that she crossed over the line with her tweet.  Way over the line.

However, let me backtrack a bit.  Since the creation of the “Basketball Wives” TV show, it appears to me that a lot of women have come to the forefront of the game.  My only problem is with the ones who are bringing that reality show element along with them.  Sports fans honestly don’t care what you think, good or bad.  We want to see Skip Bayless, Jemele Hill, Stephen A. Smith, and the likes discuss the game.  Not the wives of players.


Because wives of players are always going to side with their husbands.  Duh.  Where’s the journalistic integrity of that (not to say that all talking heads on ESPN have integrity).  Brent Grimes of the NFL has a wife who is so outspoken that he has difficulty even signing with a team.  Imagine that!  Not being able to get a job because of your wife’s actions on social media (and in real life for Miko Grimes).

Here’s the tweet heard around the world (that she deleted afterwards).

And I want all the people who are supporting Ayesha to think about that.  If your husband comes home and discloses to you that someone at his job is holding him back, is your first thought to go on social media and bash his company?  Absolutely not.  Because you know that he will be out of a job if you do.

So, why do you give Ayesha Curry a pass on doing the exact same thing?  Because Steph is too talented to get fired from the Warriors?  Well, that’s true, but that doesn’t make it right.  Because believe it or not, Steph has been totally impacted in a negative way by his wife’s antics.  He will never say that publicly because it’s his wife.  Duh again.  But she’s done more harm than good.

How so?

It’s Game 7 and what who are we talking about?  Ayesha Curry.

Who are the reporters asking Steph Curry about in the interviews leading up to the game?  Not Lebron, but Ayesha.

What questions are Steph’s teammates getting asked about in interviews leading up to the game?  Not about the Cavaliers, but about if they think the games are rigged.

And if the tweet was not enough, she challenged an ESPN talking head legend in Stephen A. Smith into a war of words.  He called her out on being a distraction to the team and her response was to challenge what he said and be even more of a distraction.  She even said that Stephen A. was pitting women against women simply because he stated that Lebron’s wife, Savannah, experiences much more scrutiny of her husband than anyone in the league, yet she lets him handle it.  Imagine that.  A woman letting a man fight his own battles.  I would personally be offended if I had a wife who attempted to fight my battles for me.  That’s emasculating.  It’s just not right and it’s humiliating.

Steph Curry is going into what could be the biggest game of his career and no one is really talking about the game.  And even if Ayesha Curry is correct in her accusations, how is she going to prove it?  What if she pissed the referees off so much (they’re human) that they decide that they’re not going to call many fouls tonight?  They may decide just to let the guys play it out and stay out of the picture.  A physical game favors Cleveland and not Golden State, so that would hurt her husband’s chances of winning.  How is her tweet going to help her husband tonight?

Newsflash: It won’t.

I’m not a fan of either team, but I do hope that tonight’s game is a close one and has plenty of action.  I am a fan of both Savannah and Ayesha.  I’m a fan of Savannah’s for being able to stay away from the spotlight, as tempting as it may be.  And I’m a fan of Ayesha’s for how she’s handled the spotlight, up until now.

It’s not that Ayesha isn’t entitled to her opinions.  She just has to realize that once she becomes the story, she becomes a target for criticism.  It doesn’t matter if it’s justified or not.  That’s just how the media works.  And any criticism of her affects her husband’s game whether anyone believes it or not.  It also puts him in a bad place with his teammates who also are affected by the controversy.

The last thing a player wants to worry about in a locker room is his wife/girlfriend or family.  You have to worry about how the media will make her look.  You have to worry about if some deranged fan(s) will accost her and hold her responsible if Golden State loses.  We live in a world where those two things are very likely.

Ayesha will probably have her own cooking show or something in the future.  She’s a likeable person and she has the ability to brighten up any room.  She’s one of the more positive recognizable figures in social media today and we need more like her.

But tweets can’t beat microphones.  In a game between Ayesha Curry vs. ESPN, I’m putting my money down on ESPN every time.  I hope that she now realizes that she’s fighting a losing battle and that she takes the high road going forward.


Well, I guess you shouldn’t call them “sex tapes” any more since VCRs are a thing of the past.  But, the term is a hard habit to break.  What once ended careers is now almost a guaranteed trip to stardom with the right, er, uh, exposure.

Most people say that the first-ever celebrity sex tape was of one of my favorite childhood crushes, Jayne Kennedy.  She was the “Halle Berry of the late 70’s and early 80’s.”  Wait.  Maybe I should say that Halle Berry was the “Jayne Kennedy of the 90’s.”

Ironically, Jayne won the Miss Ohio USA Pageant 16 years before Halle won that title for herself.  Jayne had endorsements galore until one day a tape of her and her ex-husband was left in a hotel room VCR.  Her life has never been the same.

The sex tape found it’s way to the media and as soon as the news was out Jayne’s endorsements were gone.  The lady, whose squeaky-clean image was so legendary that she even posed in Playboy with her clothes on, was done.  Her career was over just like that.  She was reduced to late night infomercials.

Fast forward to today and it’s quite the opposite.  Paris Hilton, Farrah Abraham and more have all made big splashes from their sex tapes.  In less than 40 years, society has changed from the point of shunning Jayne Kennedy for having sex with her husband to handing a multi-million dollar career to Kim Kardashian for banging Ray J.

Recently, “Love & Hip-Hop” “star,” Mimi Faust released a trailer for a sex tape of her and some dude named Nikko.  The video ties into the season premiere of the reality show on May 5th and will be sold by about week before it airs.  What once ended careers is now a calculated move by celebrities looking for that Kardashian payout.  #Marketing

It doesn’t matter what caliber of celebrity you are as long as you can generate a buzz.  Mimi’s tape has already done that by becoming one of the trendiest memes.  Her scene where she’s hanging from a shower rod has taken Instagram by storm.

That’s all it takes to be famous in 2014.  A willing participant and a little creativity in the bedroom.

What do you think draws people to celebrity sex tapes?

I think that it’s ridiculous the number of people that I encounter who have entitlement issues.  Being active on Twitter and Facebook will subject you to so many people who no idea what it takes to be a decent human being yet alone maintain a relationship or a friendship.

Since when did “I get what I want or else” become the standard for relationships/friendships?

Reality TV is the epitome of what not to do in a relationship or marriage.  The reality shows that are centered around family basically show one spouse trying to one-up the other.  It’s all about leverage.  One person is constantly trying to have his or her way without any regards to the other person’s feelings.  It’s the most pathetic way for any couple to live.

Sadly, our kids are being brought up in this environment and yes, they will be worse.  Why?  Because it’s all they know in regards to how relationships work (unless their parents teach them otherwise).  People around 30 years old and up grew up with shows like The Cosby Show or Family Ties.  They know what a normal family looks like.

People between 20-30 grew up on Martin, Living Single, Seinfeld and other shows that promoted shacking or fast-moving relationships.  You didn’t see too many marriages in the 90’s in regards to popular sitcoms.

People under 20 watched The Simple Life, Jersey Shore, Real Housewives of (Insert City Here), Love & Hip-Hop, etc.  They’ve seen nothing but dysfunction in regards to relationships and family structure.  They see constant examples of people disrespecting their mate, family, friends and even themselves.  They think that if someone isn’t doing what they want them to do, then it’s okay to do things to hurt them emotionally, verbally and in some cases physically.

That treatment has now become the standard for a lot of people.  If someone says something to hurt their mate’s feelings, then there are no apologies.  There is no understanding.  Just a “sucks to be you” attitude is all you’ll get from the offender.  Because if you don’t agree with them then you’re their enemy.  It’s personal.  You’re against them.  “How dare you not see my point of view although I don’t care about yours!”

When it comes to friendship, if you find yourself not caring what someone thinks of you, then something is wrong.  I’m not saying that a person’s opinion of you defines who you are, but I am saying that something is fundamentally wrong with someone who is okay with having enemies.

How many of these ignorant memes have you seen on IG:

“Trust gets you killed?” Uh, who are you trusting? Scarface?

I’m not even sure if I know what this means, but it had a ton of Likes on IG.

Excuse the language on the photo, but I wanted to show the pure ignorance that exists in cyberspace.  IG is a place where people with absolutely nothing to say have an audience.  It just reinforces the bad attitudes that we see in society.  If your friend seems to be spending more time with other people than you, then you call them “fake.”  If your mate doesn’t do the things you want them to do, then they’re disrespecting you.  Relationships and friendships grow harder and harder to maintain every day because people just can’t see that their attitude is the problem and not the people around them.

I spend a lot of time chatting with people online and talking to them on radio shows and podcasts.  They all ask the same questions about having friends or a significant other yet refuse to believe that everything starts with them.  Whenever I ask about what they bring to the table they go into defense mode.  It’s always someone else’s fault.  SMH.

What brings about that sense of entitlement that makes a person think they’re always right?

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Black people are always looking for role models and we have plenty in the world right in front of us. However, we don’t want to make a movie about one unless they’re an athlete, singer or actor. Uh, oh, I need to get on my soapbox for a minute.

(steps up)

Where are the movies about black doctors, counselors, teachers and people who make a real difference in the lives of millions? Why am I constantly bombarded with movies about black maids and butlers as if there aren’t any black humanitarians? Why can’t I watch an inspiring movie about a black person providing help instead of being “The Help?”

Let’s think about some of the “black” movies for 2013: “Kevin Hart: Let Me Explain”, Tyler Perry’s “Temptation” and his movie, “We the Peeples”, “Fruitvale Station,” “42,” “Haunted House” with the Wayans, and “After Earth.”  Two comedies, two Tyler Perry flicks, a tragedy, a sports movie on racism and a sci-fi movie with Will Smith and his kid. Those are my options. No movie like the one on Steve Jobs. No “Great Gatsby.”  No “Wolf of Wall Street.”  Do you see what I’m saying?

People probably think that no one would watch it, but I disagree. Black people attend the movies probably more than any other race. It’s not that we don’t crave quality movies about role models, it’s just that Hollywood won’t make movies like that. In fact, we may only be a decade away from all black movies being complete foolishness at the theaters just like today’s music is a joke on some of the mainstream radio stations.

Hollywood isn’t going to make these movies. People like my man Archie in the Virgin Islands may some day, but he’s not financially in a position to do that now to my knowledge. This is why people like Harry Belafonte get upset and preach about social responsibility. Because the black people capable of making this type of impact in society aren’t interested in making a difference, they’re only interested in making more money. So, since no one wants to be a leader in 2013, then black people who really matter in this country become irrelevant to society.

People are always quick to say “make that money, don’t let the money make you.” Well, that’s what’s been happening for the last 15-20 years. Now, what a person does with their money is their business, but what I say with my mouth is mine. And some things just need to be said.

People are letting the money “make them” by dictating everything they do or don’t do on their next paycheck. “If I speak out against this group then I’ll lose revenue.” If you think this way, then make no mistake about it, the dollar is making you.

Back to the movies… I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with the movies that I named. I loved “42.” I’m sure that I’ll laugh at Kevin Hart’s movie when I finally see it. I’ll even watch “After Earth” once it reaches the $3 everything must go bin at Target.

I’m just saying that black people need some balance in America. We need some good to equal out the bad and the foolishness. For every Trinidad James we need a Kendrick Lamar. For every Shaunie O’Neal, we need a Kerry Washington. We can’t have 20 reality shows of black women pulling out each other’s weave to every one primetime drama.

If I were a white person who didn’t personally know any black folks, I’d lock my doors every time I saw someone who even looked like they had a tan. Because the movies say if they’re not working for me, then TV says that I should be afraid of them. All because we don’t have representation.

I’m off my soap box now.

(steps down)

This is their life: Instagram.  LOL!

Okay, so here’s my response if you were to ask me the best way to understand teen-aged girls: don’t even try it!  I don’t even understand adult women, so there’s absolutely no way that I can figure out a teen-aged girl.  Let me start from the beginning…

My girlfriend has teen-aged daughters and I hang out with them from time-to-time.  Listening to them talk to one another usually leaves my eyes crossed.  Not that it’s difficult to understand what they’re saying because they’re intelligent kids.  It’s just that their conversation is so random that it takes you around the world before you realize what’s happening.

The life of a teen-aged girl changes almost every five minutes.  From “she’s my best friend” to “I hate her” in less than an hour.  Or “I love my outfit” to “this makes me look lame” in 20 minutes.  Or “that’s my song right there” for every single song that plays on the radio.  Posing for Instagram photos over 50 times in a day.  It’s just too much for my 41 year old manly mind to grasp!

I grew up with just an older brother, so I never really had to deal with teen-aged girls aside from a few cousins who would visit from out of state every now and then.  And things were much different growing up in the 80’s than they are now.  There was no fascination with being a “mean girl,” the music on the radio was mostly about love or dancing, no social networking and there was absolutely no reality TV.

Now, each child thinks that she’s a movie star thanks to Instagram, Vine, Twitter, etc.  Thanks to reality shows, kids learn how to develop cliques and feel “disrespected” by things that aren’t even remotely disrespectful.  Wait.  I know some adults who are like that, too.

Anyhoo, it’s very fascinating to talk to them and although I leave scratching my head, I do enjoy it.  It’s a brand new element to me and it’s captivating to know what goes through the mind of a teen-aged girl.  I thought that I would have to wait another 8-10 years for my god daughter to provide me with this “everything is a crisis” lifestyle, but it appears that I may have inherited it.  So far, I’m loving every minute of it.

Any advice for talking a teen-aged girl “off the ledge” for these modern day manufactured problems that they have?

Photo courtesy of the last presidential debate.

Okay, I need to step on my soap box for a bit.  Let me start off by saying that I’m not perfect.  However, one thing that I am is fair.  Unfortunately, that’s a trait that has gone the way of the dinosaur.  As a blogger and talk radio show host, I read/hear a lot of opinions from people all over the world.  It’s so sad to me that people think the way that they do.  I’m not just talking about a difference of opinions because that will happen.  I’m talking about how a lot people argue their opinions: with emotions.

You cannot debate something based on emotions.  Let me repeat: you cannot debate something based on emotions.  You can only debate something with logic.  Logic contains facts and facts are what win debates.

Emotions are important in everyday living, but they generally make a person unreasonable in debates.  They can cause you to repeat your argument, but only louder, to attempt to make a point.  They make you feel personally attacked in an argument that’s not even about you.  They make you say stupid things like “just because” which is what people say when they don’t have facts to support their argument.  You’re just emotional.

But, let me get back to the fairness thing again.  What’s bothering me is how people allow their emotions to do/say something that they absolutely know is wrong or unfair to another.  Here’s an example: a man will father a child with someone he won’t marry.  He and the woman get into an argument and because he doesn’t like her, he won’t support his child.

That’s the epitome of stupid to me.  A man who denies his child because his feelings got hurt is a punk.  There’s just no arguing that.  Regardless if that woman cheated on you with your best friend, the child still has to eat, be clothed and medicated regularly at a cost.  If a guy fails to see that because of the tears in his eyes over a woman, then he’s a shell of a man.

Now, before you ladies stand up and clap, this foolishness applies to you, too.  In fact, despite the fact that women are said to mature quicker than men, that maturity is sometimes reduced by your emotions.  This is why we see the most popular reality shows with a predominantly female cast.  Because there isn’t a shortage of women willing to turn a small disagreement into World War III.  Feeling the need to be right at the expense of others is the reason why so many of you are single and/or without friends.

It’s a shame that our country is so volatile and that it thrives on divisiveness.  Black vs. white.  Young vs. old.  Democrats vs. Republicans.  Men vs. women.  All of this debating fueled with emotion instead of logic is why this country is filled with stupid people.  And stupid people have stupid children.  If you don’t believe me, then follow a dumb kid home and see if someone just as dumb doesn’t answer the door.

It is so frustrating to assume that each time I go into a debate, whether it’s a serious topic or even something as trivial as sports, that I may be the only person with reasoning and facts behind my argument.  The other person may just have some emotional attachment to whatever it is they’re supporting without any other debate ammunition.  I can definitely say that I truly understand why this country is deeper in a rut with each passing day, morally and financially.

We blame Obama, we blame teachers, we’ll even blame the kid down the street and everyone else instead of ourselves.  We never blame ourselves.  After all, we can’t be wrong because what we’re saying “feels right.”


(steps off soap box)

“Just because that’s the way it should be!”