Know The Ledge

Posted: September 24, 2014 in bad boys, excitement, relationships, women

You walk to the edge of the building’s roof and you stand on the ledge. You look down and try to gauge how long it would take you to drop the seventy-five feet between you and the pavement.  Seven seconds?  Six seconds?  Do you swan dive or just drop feet first?

The sounds of traffic become muffled as the increased rhythm of your heartbeat moves its way to the forefront. You close your eyes knowing that your equilibrium could be affected by it. But, you don’t care because you want to feel that exhilarating rush! Balance equals safety and there’s no excitement in safety.  You need adrenaline more than ever right now! It’s all about this moment!

Then you take a step… back onto the rooftop and open your eyes. Your heartbeat slowly starts to return to normal. Traffic sounds are now distinctive again. You are once again in a safe place.

Ladies, is this what a relationship is like with a bad boy?
  1. Having dated my share of nice guys and bad boys I can say that dating in general can feel this way if you really like the person. Dating a bad boy is more like a train wreck. It's not all that exciting, it's more heartbreaking than exciting. When we date 'bad boys” it's usually because we think we can change them or that they'll change for us because they love us. Nice description though Q!

  2. Quincy S says:

    Thanks, BSG! And I appreciate the insight! I'm trying to figure it out from a man's perspective, but thought I'd ask the ladies! 🙂

  3. Meena Avery says:

    Ohhh, the “bad boys”…so captivating, sexy, edgy, risky, and enticing. Perhaps like standing on the edge of a building looking down. While I was attracted to many of that “type” of guy in the past, now that I'm older and wiser, I realize that dating is even more exciting when it's all about the little things, the simple pleasures, not the risks. I'm much happier worrying about what's for dinner, rather than worrying about driving down the road on a motorcycle 70 MPH without a helmet on. I don't need the adrenaline rush anymore.

  4. I'm not a chick. But I've lost a couple relationships because I wasn't “bad” enough. Oh-well, their loss, now. ha ha As a dude, IF they don't like me for me, it was never going to work anyway. It's best to find out sooner than later so we can both move on with our lives.

  5. tinzley says:

    I don't have time to be going down to Fulton County Jail putting money on no ones books. When I was younger, I somehow attracted the bad boys but today…… They look at me a know that sister ain't playing! I'll take Mr. Nice guy!

  6. Quincy S says:

    Exactly! And what is “bad enough” anyway? Cursing her out? Knocking her down? I don't want someone who expects any of that from a man.

  7. Quincy S says:

    Save that bail money, Tinzley! LOL! Jeremy Meeks may need it! 🙂

  8. Quincy S says:

    Meena, I get that. I was the nice guy who got passed over in his 20's and approached again in his 30's. By that time, most women had matured their way past the bad boy and wanted stability instead.

  9. Emme says:

    Really do not understand some women's desires to date men that are so clearly not good for them.

    Personally, happy to find a good guy that makes me laugh.

  10. Suzie A. says:

    Bad boys appeal to women for several reasons, mostly it's because they want the bad boy to be good just for them, they want to save him or reform him. Frankly, many women just like that trouble or danger factor. Whatever the reason is, bad boys will only hurt you in the end. Personally, the more headache they gave me the more I liked them, but you soon grow out of that and just want someone who fits in your life and makes it peaceful and happy. Not too much to ask, or is it? Great post!

  11. Quincy S says:

    Thanks, SDD! However, as a man who always treated women with respect, it sucked when they came crawling back my way after the bad boys broke them (damaged them emotionally, left them as a single parent, etc.). I didn't like being put in the position as “savior” and I turned many women away because of it. Women I actually liked at one time.

  12. Quincy S says:

    I agree, Emme! Nice to hear from you!

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