Date Your Child’s Friend (Over 18)

Posted: July 6, 2012 in dating, parenting

In these days, things are so much different than they were 50 years ago. In 1962, a woman was chastised for having a baby out of wedlock, especially as a teen. In 2012, not only can you see a 15 year old pregnant, she’ll even get a baby shower out of it, too.

But, because men and women are becoming parents at such an early age now, the generation gaps are shrinking. So, it’s not uncommon to see 36 year old parent and a 20 year old child. (I actually once met a server at Hooters who was a 32 year old grandmother).

Now throw in the fact that it’s no longer frowned upon to “rob the cradle” these days. “Cougars” and “Sugar Daddies” are an accepted part of society now for the most part. So, what happens when your “Cougar” Mom or “Sugar Daddy” Father get the hots for one of your friends or vice versa?

If a man/woman is mid-to-late 30’s, then they are still in relatively good shape and capable of doing a lot of things that a 20-something can do. To be in your mid-to-late 30’s and done with raising kids is almost like a new lease on life to a lot of former teen parents. They get to do all of the things that they couldn’t do in their 20’s when they were actively raising a child. Sometimes, they even go to the same hangout spots as their child…

Would you ever date someone your child’s age? / What would you do if your parent dated someone your age?

  1. No I wouldn't it would be just weird although that said a number of years ago I found a friend of my daughter really cute it was an odd time of my life…….and I am glad it is over but it was also a good time………..if that makes any sense

  2. Thank, Q says:

    So, you acted on that back then or you just found yourself attracted to her friend?

  3. Lawfrog says:

    No matter the age gap, I don't think it's ever a good idea to date one of your child's friends. There are somethings that should just be off limits and that is one of them. If you want to date below your age bracket then do so, but don't fish off the company pier.

  4. Thank, Q says:

    With the reach of social networks these days almost anyone a child's age could be considered 'their friend.' I guess it's safe to go pretty far away from town to find someone, huh? 🙂

  5. Lawfrog says:

    LOL Q! When I think of friend, I'm thinking more someone the child actually knows well, perhaps brings home to dinner, etc. It would seem odd to me that anyone would want to date someone in their child's age bracket anyway, but that's just me. If you are going to do that, don't make it someone the kid actually hangs out with, that's all I'm saying.

  6. Thank, Q says:

    I guess I shouldn't be surprised when things like this happen these days. I wonder how often things like this happened 50 years ago? I wonder if it occurred just as much, but we just didn't know about it due to lack of media outlets.

  7. I AM NOT JOKING WHEN I SAY THIS, but about 6 years ago my mom asked to borrow one of my old High School yearbooks from me….3 months later, she leveled with me. She was dating a guy I used to go to school with, and she wanted to see what he looked like back then….I still haven't fully recovered…

  8. Thank, Q says:

    Wow. Your mom is a playa from the Himalayas! Have you seen/spoken to the guy since then?

  9. We hung out in different circles, and mama stopped dating him after about 6 months. She's still lookin for 'the dirty under 30' so my yearbooks are no good anymore…

  10. Thank, Q says:

    LOL! "The Dirty Under-30." Nice.

  11. Emme Rogers says:

    Seems to me we live in different worlds. I'm seeing people having kids later in life, not earlier.

  12. Thank, Q says:

    Really? I guess we could be. I wish the age was getting older, but not around the places I'm familiar with.

  13. Anonymous says:

    My ex husband got together with our daughter's BFF who also happened to be the sister of the boy who got my daughter preggers (yes, Springer material… keep it in the family kids… ugh). Anyways, long story short, the ex is now 50, has 3 kids under the age of 7, and looks 20 years older than he is. His child bride as I like to call her, is not even 30. Totally messed up.

    On the same token, I'm in my 40's and have a 'friend' who's 27. Only difference here is we were friends first, neither of us want kids and it's a casual thing with no expectations, and the most important thing, he's NOT the friend of either of my kids!! lol

  14. Anonymous says:

    Forgot to add, at the time, he was like 40, she was maybe 18? Our daughter still has not completely forgiven either of them for what happened and for lying to her (she was like 15 when this all went down).

  15. Quincy S says:

    Oh, wow. I'm not even sure how to even respond to that. It's one thing to date someone much younger, but your daughter's best friend? That is wrong on so many levels, in my opinion. LOL! Well, I'm sure he regrets being a 50+ dad to so many young kids now. I'm also glad that you've moved on and found someone to enjoy yourself with! You have a “boy toy” at 27! 🙂

  16. Anonymous says:

    It's totally twisted for sure, but I guess if they're happy? He loves his boys, that's for sure but I'm sure he's got some regrets having more kids so late (all were accidents, one set of twins too).

    I moved on long before all this happened, we had been divorced for a few years by this point. His life, his issues. I'm quite content with my life and my 'boy toy', even at 27 he has more common sense than my ex ever did! lol

  17. Quincy S says:

    Twins? Oooh. Yeah, I know that had to hurt. One kid is enough for someone over 50, but two at the same time? Rough!

  18. I wouldn't date anyone who considers Jay-Z and Drake old school hip hop and can't remember when there was no social networking.

  19. Omg!!! All of this sounds like a Lifetime movie with the potential for being an episode on ID. I'm so sorry your daughter was hurt by all of it.

  20. Quincy S says:

    Yeah, it would be difficult to relate to them without a common ground. It's possible, but difficult.

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